I’ll be Fine…

“Dude I’m really worried about you, I don’t know how to get you out of this. I can’t see you like this.” The answer’s a curt one we give which is “I’ll be fine.”

How many times was it that you came across such people or have friends in your circle who say this that they’ll be fine? And we just sometimes believe that they will be. We do try to be for them but not in the right ways sometimes. We give them an ear, lend them our undivided attention but this doesn’t work at all times. Sure it’s all one asks for most of the times; a mere good listener but when it comes to those times that your dear one is going into depression each and every single day of their life and you do know that they’re going through tough times because you’re in contact with them twenty-four; seven. Yet you choose to not assure them. And this hurts them the most.

I know talking about problems, listening, understanding is the way through which you support your precious ones but this doesn’t help. It really does not help. What they need during those times is encouragement, reassurance, assistance, picking them up, a helping hand.

They want to be daily reminded at every hour they you’ve got them, you’re proud of them. And at times they need someone to help them get out of the vicious cycle of depression and anxiety.

They might not ask you straight away that they need you to do that for them but they really do. They don’t ask for it directly merely because they don’t want to seem as a burden or get rubbed in the face later on that it wasn’t them who did it on their own. That they got help from you.

Now I know the ones who truly cherish and love you will never even with a slight gesture make you feel like you were pathetic and weak and that they couldn’t have done it without you for the one’s who do so were never real with you. But human nature is a tricky thing isn’t it my friends? For even a skink can eat it’s own babies so what to talk of humans? Considering the circumstances even the dear ones can turn into monsters.

But in the end all I want to say is that the next time someone says “I’ll be fine” or “I can do it on my own”, don’t back away because that’s their way of trying to build walls incase of future harm. Be there for them. Tell them sweet words of reassurance, encourage them into making them do things, plan stuff for them and send it to them and tell them that you want them to see them getting those tasks done. Trust me! they’ll be secretly loving this sweet token of care and love.

And whenever you see someone gloomy don’t walk away, hug them, talk in a buoyant manner with them. Never walk away from people just because you think that it’s not your place to say the truth or do something for them, that you might infringe their personal life. You won’t be creating more problems for them as long as you stay within the limited sphere and help them out.

Love each other. We’re all in this together. We’ve got each other and most importantly we’ve all got God.